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I wish she understood.

My wife and I have been together since before Diablo 3 came out. She has seen my highs and lows as they were associated with this universe. I was obsessed with the novelization and rerelease of Diablo 2 through Battlenet, no longer needing to keep my 20 disks, and release of Diablo 1 & Hellfire on GOG.

She knows I "like" is game, but she asked me yesterday why I was getting so jittery and emotional about this years Blizzcons supposed leaks. I've have tried over the years to explain my passion, I've even tried getting her to play them with me to share in the experience, but nothing has ever conveyed the purity and amount of passion I have for Diablo.

When I was very young, I used to play Diablo 1 on my moms computer with the volume all the way up while she was being abused. The Butcher still to this day scares me. With the release on GOG, I didnt go and kill him until I was level 18. The Under church with teleporting mobs gave me nightmares.

I remember being grounded one Halloween and couldn't go out to walk with the rest of my family door to door, I was home along. But I didnt feel alone, I was exploring the Oasis in Act 2, avoiding the triggered bolts of electricity from the scarabs. I still recall that night better than the actual progressive Halloween's.

How do you explain something that you associate as apart of you and your development? How do you explain that sometimes a product can have such a significant impact on you that you genuinely are sad the day it is gone?

She will more than likely come across this in my history but I'm curious if anyone has come across this issue in their own lives?

Nevalistis

Posted 4 years, 7 months ago (Source)

I'm taking a break from the crazy, so wanted to share my own story. This was a little cathartic to write, I hope you don't mind!

I struggled a lot trying to explain my passions as a kid. I was sort of the closeted nerd/weirdo who was into stuff no one had ever heard of, living in a podunk, Midwest town and graduated in a class of under 60 kids.

I moved around a lot as a kid, almost always to small towns, and it was hard to keep friends for more than a couple of years. Things like anime and video games and comic books and TCGs anchored me growing up. While in one breath I might be made fun of in my latest group of peers at school, I had a network of other people who knew and understood what I enjoyed in the early days of online communities and forums. We shared a passion, we shared a hobby, and they understood.

Then, one day, it connected that what I loved was, in the simplest terms, a hobby. The same way sports are for some people, where they learn teamwork and ethic through training together, I learned in co-op games. The same way building and working on a car with your old man is for car nuts, I learned building and painting models with my dad. The same way you used to knit with your grandmother, and cross-stitching makes you emotional because of the memories it brings, I experienced with cosplay and friends I'll never forget, even though we're no longer in touch.

Later in life, it became easier for me to communicate this to the people I grew up with who didn't quite understand, but recognized it was important to me, and it's because I started comparing what I loved to the things they enjoyed and had passion for. It's not really any different; we all have things that make us happy, bring us joy, allow us to relax, and are a comfort in times of need.

Maybe offering that kind of comparison to your wife will help! I'm fortunate in that I share many (though not all) of my passions with my partner, and have even roped him into a few (he knows more about tabletop RPGs now than I ever have, and I've been playing them 20+ years). And it's okay if she doesn't ever fully understand; I'm sure there are things about her that you may not fully grasp either. But the fact you want to share this with her so much shows both how important it is to you as well as how important she is to you, and that's just downright lovely!

You don't have to ask someone to understand, and you don't have to share every passion either. You can ask them to listen, and offer to introduce them to it. Maybe they'll take to it, and maybe they won't. If she doesn't "get" it, that's okay. Try some of the things she likes, too! If she can see how something brings a smile to your face other things don't, and you can compare that to some of her own experiences and passions, it might click a little easier.

I've rambled enough for now. <3 Thanks for staying awhile to listen, now back off to the grind for me!

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<div class="md">I'm taking a break from the crazy, so wanted to share my own story. This was a little cathartic to write, I hope you don't mind!

I struggled a lot trying to explain my passions as a kid. I was sort of the closeted nerd/weirdo who was into stuff no one had ever heard of, living in a podunk, Midwest town and graduated in a class of under 60 kids.

I moved around a lot as a kid, almost always to small towns, and it was hard to keep friends for more than a couple of years. Things like anime and video games and comic books and TCGs anchored me growing up. While in one breath I might be made fun of in my latest group of peers at school, I had a network of other people who knew and understood what I enjoyed in the early days of online communities and forums. We shared a passion, we shared a hobby, and they understood.

Then, one day, it connected that what I loved was, in the simplest terms, a hobby. The same way sports are for some people, where they learn teamwork and ethic through training together, I learned in co-op games. The same way building and working on a car with your old man is for car nuts, I learned building and painting models with my dad. The same way you used to knit with your grandmother, and cross-stitching makes you emotional because of the memories it brings, I experienced with cosplay and friends I'll never forget, even though we're no longer in touch.

Later in life, it became easier for me to communicate this to the people I grew up with who didn't quite understand, but recognized it was important to me, and it's because I started comparing what I loved to the things they enjoyed and had passion for. It's not really any different; we all have things that make us happy, bring us joy, allow us to relax, and are a comfort in times of need.

Maybe offering that kind of comparison to your wife will help! I'm fortunate in that I share many (though not all) of my passions with my partner, and have even roped him into a few (he knows more about tabletop RPGs now than I ever have, and I've been playing them 20+ years). And it's okay if she doesn't ever fully understand; I'm sure there are things about her that you may not fully grasp either. But the fact you want to share this with her so much shows both how important it is to you as well as how important she is to you, and that's just downright lovely!

You don't have to ask someone to understand, and you don't have to share every passion either. You can ask them to listen, and offer to introduce them to it. Maybe they'll take to it, and maybe they won't. If she doesn't "get" it, that's okay. Try some of the things she likes, too! If she can see how something brings a smile to your face other things don't, and you can compare that to some of her own experiences and passions, it might click a little easier.

I've rambled enough for now. <3 Thanks for staying awhile to listen, now back off to the grind for me!
</div> (<a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/Diablo/comments/dohs9b/i_wish_she_understood/f5o8atm">Nevalistis</a>)
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<div class="md">I'm taking a break from the crazy, so wanted to share my own story. This was a little cathartic to write, I hope you don't mind!

I struggled a lot trying to explain my passions as a kid. I was sort of the closeted nerd/weirdo who was into stuff no one had ever heard of, living in a podunk, Midwest town and graduated in a class of under 60 kids.

I moved around a lot as a kid, almost always to small towns, and it was hard to keep friends for more than a couple of years. Things like anime and video games and comic books and TCGs anchored me growing up. While in one breath I might be made fun of in my latest group of peers at school, I had a network of other people who knew and understood what I enjoyed in the early days of online communities and forums. We shared a passion, we shared a hobby, and they understood.

Then, one day, it connected that what I loved was, in the simplest terms, a hobby. The same way sports are for some people, where they learn teamwork and ethic through training together, I learned in co-op games. The same way building and working on a car with your old man is for car nuts, I learned building and painting models with my dad. The same way you used to knit with your grandmother, and cross-stitching makes you emotional because of the memories it brings, I experienced with cosplay and friends I'll never forget, even though we're no longer in touch.

Later in life, it became easier for me to communicate this to the people I grew up with who didn't quite understand, but recognized it was important to me, and it's because I started comparing what I loved to the things they enjoyed and had passion for. It's not really any different; we all have things that make us happy, bring us joy, allow us to relax, and are a comfort in times of need.

Maybe offering that kind of comparison to your wife will help! I'm fortunate in that I share many (though not all) of my passions with my partner, and have even roped him into a few (he knows more about tabletop RPGs now than I ever have, and I've been playing them 20+ years). And it's okay if she doesn't ever fully understand; I'm sure there are things about her that you may not fully grasp either. But the fact you want to share this with her so much shows both how important it is to you as well as how important she is to you, and that's just downright lovely!

You don't have to ask someone to understand, and you don't have to share every passion either. You can ask them to listen, and offer to introduce them to it. Maybe they'll take to it, and maybe they won't. If she doesn't "get" it, that's okay. Try some of the things she likes, too! If she can see how something brings a smile to your face other things don't, and you can compare that to some of her own experiences and passions, it might click a little easier.

I've rambled enough for now. <3 Thanks for staying awhile to listen, now back off to the grind for me!
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